the-master-john:

temptingdominance:

Dear Submissives

Can you please for for the love of god stop paying attention to that bullshit on Tumblr that tells you that you’re supposed to be a worthless object? You do realize that everybody who is spouting off about that crap doesn’t put their face or their address online?

BECAUSE IT ISN’T REAL!

You’re not going to spend your life in a basement serving somebody. It’s a fucking fantasy. And it bullshit like this that destroys the positive and meaningful interactions with in BDSM.

No one is dominant or submissive 100% of the time. It’s not possible. We’re human beings. We need to rest. We need to rejuvenate. Yeah you can have a hot session that goes on for a full weekend. You can embrace every bit of who you are as a dominant or submissive. But there’s always a break.

And if you haven’t figured this out, real dominant men provide Aftercare and take of their boys. Full stop. It’s not even a question. If somebody is going to put you through an intense situation and can’t even fucking bother holding onto you and caressing you to let you calm down, they’re just a piece of shit. There is something psychologically wrong with them and you shouldn’t be around them in the first place.

Let’s address this Alpha bullshit. No one is better than somebody else. No person is ordained as this creature that is meant to be superior to others. If someone honestly leaves that they are better than someone else on purely a basis of humanity, they are most likely a sad individual. They never achieved anything meaningful. Maybe one day they started going to the gym and realize that someone was attracted to them and then they could exert their low self-esteem on another. Can’t fucking stand people like this. And they spout their bullshit all over the internet.

And here’s the simple truth to all of this, you may read this right now and think that I’m completely wrong. But as soon as the fantasy wears off, you start to realize that a good man is far better than anything that this fantasy world could ever provide.

So please wake the fuck up. Believe in yourself. Know that you don’t deserve to be treated like crap. Submission is a gift. The dominant has to be worthy of it. You make that determination not them.

Stand up for yourself. I believe in you. Look past the bullshit.

Sincerely,

A good dominant man that’s tired of seeing people abused.

This man speaks the truth. Everybody has a worth whatever their level of dominance.

The posts on my blog are a true reflection of my life… although somewhat exaggerated, perhaps. The relationship I have with my boys is based on mutual trust and respect.

For most on Tumblr the whole master/slave scene is just a fantasy. However, there is a social hierarchy, a pecking order and this is true in every aspect of life… not just in the bedroom or in your dungeon!
Having said that, your level of dominance is not fixed or permanent. I like to use the analogy of the wolf pack… The young pup works his way up the social order until one day he overthrows the alpha male and becomes the leader of the pack. 

There are some people who have little or no sense of self worth or self respect. They often throw themselves into a downward spiral of self-destruction. Even they can be helped… they can reverse the process… but, they need to make that choice themselves. Never write yourself off or give up!

nonbinarypastels:

happy pride to everyone who can’t make it to a pride event

🌈 happy pride to closeted people

🌈 happy pride to people living in rural areas where there’s no pride event around for miles

🌈 happy pride to poor people who can’t afford to go to a pride event

🌈 happy pride to working people who can’t afford to take even a day off 

🌈 happy pride to minors who don’t have parents or other adults willing to take them to pride

🌈 happy pride to disabled people who aren’t going to any pride events because you don’t know if they’re going to be accessible or not

🌈 happy pride to people with chronic pain who don’t feel up to going to any pride events

🌈 happy pride to people with chronic illnesses who are too sick to go to pride events

🌈 happy pride to neurodivergent and mentally ill people who can’t handle being at events with large crowds and loud noises

happy pride to everyone who can’t make it to a pride event no matter why that is! hopefully you can still do something yourself at home, either alone or with some friends. you don’t have to go to a huge pride parade in order to be proud of who you are or to have a good time! 🌈💖